It’s easy to have a positive attitude and follow inspirational advice when things are going smoothly in your life. However, the true test is how you handle your life when you are going through difficulties.
Think about this scenario. Life is going great and everything seems to be going your way. You then come to a small bump in the road and with a good attitude you are able to get past it. Then soon after, another bump comes along. This time it’s a little more difficult, but with the same good attitude you are able to get through it. You breathe a sigh of relief that things are back to normal. However you then come across multiple bumps in the road, each one bigger and more challenging than the one before, and the bumps don’t stop. What happens to you when you reach bump after bump after bump? Storms arise within you and all around you, what do you do?
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When you are faced with multiple challenges in life, it is easy to get discouraged, distracted, and overwhelmed. Sometimes it can get to the point where your positive attitude flies out the window. When this happens you can lose your focus, lose your sense of inner peace, get overly stressed, become worrisome, get stuck in a rut, etc. You may possibly view life with a victim mentality and ask yourself, “Why is this happening to me?” You may take things out on yourself and/or your loved ones. If you don’t get things under control, you may find yourself in a downward spiral.
I would like to share the lessons that I have learned from my most recent storms:
1. Realize that YOU have control over your life.
I am reminded of the following quote from Wayne Dyer:
When you squeeze an orange, orange juice comes out because that’s what’s inside. When you are squeezed, what comes out is what’s inside.
When life squeezes you, what comes out? Are you kind and loving? Do you stay in peace? Or are you angry and impatient? Or do you shut down and become numb? Everyone reacts differently to the storms in their lives. Regardless, if you don’t like what comes out of you when you are squeezed, you have a choice to make a change. Don’t be a victim of your circumstances. Take responsibility for your life. As the saying goes, life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond to it. You can’t always control what life sends your way, but you CAN control how you react to life!
2. Find the lesson(s) to be learned.
Is there a common theme amongst your recurring challenges? If so, find the lesson(s) to be learned. Life will present you with the same lesson(s) over and over until you learn what you need to know.
Even if there isn’t a common theme amongst your challenges, there is always something you can learn from each of your trials. Realize that the trials in your life aren’t meant to destroy you, they are meant to strengthen you. You must remember that you are stronger than your challenges and every challenge makes you even stronger.
3. Accept the fact that change is the only constant in life.
When we resist change, we create unnecessary tension in our lives. We cannot expect things to always stay the same. We must go with the flow and adapt. We should be constantly evolving as we embrace the changes in our lives. Also realize that with change comes opportunity. It can be the opportunity to grow, to make the best of each situation, to make a better life for you and your loved ones, etc. The good news is that YOU get to choose the opportunity!
4. Let go. Live in the present moment.
It is hard to let go of things you can’t control – this includes the past, the future, and what other people say or do. But it is crucial to let go if you want peace in your life. So release, let it go, and keep moving forward.
After losing my father almost one year ago, I got stuck in the past wishing things could’ve been different. It is hard to move on after such a devastating loss, but I know that my father would want me to be happy and to live my life. I’m also reminded of something Joel Osteen once said, “Don’t let a season of mourning turn into a lifetime of mourning.”
It is okay to visit the past every once in awhile to remember good times or to learn from past experiences. However, it is not okay to stay in the past. When you live in the past, you rob yourself of the present moment.
There is no time machine. We can’t go back to re-live the past and we can’t go forward to completely control our future. Yesterday is gone and tomorrow is never promised so we must cherish the present moment that we are in. Afterall, the present moment is the only moment that we know that we have for certain. Don’t waste it away. Don’t miss out on being grateful for all of the blessings in your life. Enjoy the life that is directly in front of you at this very moment in time, challenges and all!
5. Be good to yourself and your loved ones.
Stressful moments can cause self-care to fall on the priority list. But running on empty due to lack of sleep or proper nutrition will just make life even more difficult. Make sure you are taking care of yourself. For example, sleep, rest, and make time for yourself. Make sure you are eating healthy meals and exercising regularly. Do things that you enjoy. Be aware of your self-talk as well, don’t beat yourself up. Give yourself some grace and forgive yourself if you need to. Do the best that you can in the moment that you are in and keep moving forward.
Also make sure you are showing love and kindness to those closest to you. Don’t fall into the trap of taking things out on your loved ones in the midst of the storm.
6. Be aware of your thoughts and stay in peace.
Be aware of your thoughts because negative thoughts can attract more storms into your life. For example, if you believe “It’s always something” there WILL always be something. Take a stand right now and tell yourself, “no matter what life brings, I will stay in peace.”
When you wake up each morning, open your eyes with gratitude and be thankful for another day. Make the intention that you will make the best of the day and you will stay in peace no matter what the day brings. Have your mind set on having a good day, but if things don’t go your way remember to return to this state of inner peace.
The next time something in life upsets you, don’t dwell on the negativity. Pause for a moment, take a deep cleansing breath, and return to that state of inner peace. Learn to say to yourself, “I’m not getting upset. I know this day is a gift from God and I am thankful for all of my blessings. I’m making a decision to stay in peace.” Always remember no situation can upset you without your permission!
7. Realize that sunshine is on the way, don’t stop living.
When you are in the middle of a storm, you must find the eye of the storm by staying in peace. However you must also remember that storms are not permanent, they come and go. Have faith that with time the clouds will part and the sun will shine again. This too shall pass.
Even when you feel like your world is crashing down around you, life in general does not stop. The sun will set and rise again. You will still have responsibilities to fulfill. Your kids will continue to grow and your parents will continue to age. Life doesn’t wait for you while you are experiencing stormy weather so don’t miss out on your life! Get back to living the life you were meant to live ASAP!
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